Let me take you on a journey. I'm going to forewarn you, it's going to get a little bumpy, but I promise you it's worth the ride.
Oh the lovely world of online dating. The fake profiles, the immediate inappropriate pictures, the catfishing, or the dating for a short time, and then them not being ready to date.. The list goes on and on. Then a profile pops up in my "People who like you" section.. Of a 6'4", dark haired Alaskan. Laid out before me was a long and detailed profile explaining all he has to offer. And also explaining his severe PTSD and the pros and cons of dating him because of it. How much he gives, cares, and loves those lucky enough to be in his life.
He says a quick few lines about how he once traveled on a long road trip in the search of some great coffee.. (My profile stated my love for road trips) Having a million questions I wanted to ask in regards to everything he poured into his profile, I decide to message him back. We send a few pleasantries back and forth.. And he asks if he can message me later because he has some things he needs to get done.. I immediately think I must have said something he didn't like and thought about hitting that un-match button. But he sends me his cell, and so I text him and tell him to just text me when he's not busy, with not much hope of hearing back from him.
A couple hours later he texts me.. We exchange a few texts, and then he asks "Would you have time to talk?".. I tell him "Sure".. And he says "May I call you?".. Which I respond with "Of course". Thinking how strange it was to be asked those questions.. Fast forward to 7:15am.. And we are still talking on the phone.. A full 9 1/2 hours later of talking nonstop.. He tells me he's going to jump in the shower, and drive an hour and fifteen minutes to take me to coffee.
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First selfie he sent me while on the phone for 9 hours. |
"Coffee" ends up lasting 3 hours.. And it was time for my 3 month follow up appointment about my back.. I go to tell him good bye, and he asks if it would be strange if he went to my appointment with me, that he would just wait in the car for me.. I tell him I don't care, and long story short.. We have been together ever since.
The next several blog posts will be about our journey thus far over the past 9 months. And then I will begin to document our story as it happens. As we learn our way and grow together. I will be sharing all of it. The highs. The lows. The struggles. The Learning. The growth.. The healing. The battle that PTSD brings, and the demons that come with it.
I hope you enjoy our story. I hope it inspires you. I hope you learn from it.. I pray you become educated in the hardship of PTSD and the chaos it can cause for the individual and the ones they love the most. Because I know my eyes have definitely been opened these past several months. And I'm learning more and more every day. So buckle up, and embark with me on this amazing journey of how I am finding my way in finding love with someone with severe PTSD.
Lovingly,
The Warrior's Girl